3 Healthy Habits for Building Self-Esteem

There are so many ways to help you build a positive self-esteem, these are a few that I use myself and with my clients which have been very helpful on our journey and can be helpful to you as well.  

1. Keep a journal.  Each day, close to bedtime, write about your day.  How was it?  What lessons did you learn from the day?  What did you learn about yourself?  Did you do what was best for you?  Were you able to express your feelings?  If not, why?  What may you be able to upgrade for tomorrow?  I find that writing things down in a journal can be better than just typing on a computer.  There is something about keeping a paper journal that helps more with memories than just typing them out.  Find what works best for you.

2. Practice Meditation.  Each day before I start my day I do at least 5 minutes of meditation.  I have found that it’s the best way for me to get my thoughts together and ready for the day and tasks at hand.  There are many different types of meditation so do your research.  When I am in my office I tend to meditate with soothing music, if I am the only one home I may use silence.  If it’s late and night and my brain is having a hard time slowing down I may listen to a guided meditation.  Following a regular Yoga Practice, which is a moving meditation, has been ideal in helping me through some of the most stressful times in my life.  On more than a few occasions I have felt tears streaming down my face from releasing stress I didn’t know I had while I was meditating.  Getting into a regular practice acts like a pressure cooker, if we release it as we go the pressure doesn’t build up as much.  There is no wrong way to meditate, the idea is to relax, breathe and view your thoughts without judgement.  I have had some of my most inspiring ideas while meditating.  There is no better way than to relax, breathe and rest your thoughts. This is a great time to practice affirmations and reflect on what you want for your life.

3. Look in the Mirror

This is one I am not as familiar with but am excited to try.  When is the last time you looked in the mirror not to look for flaws but to truly see the beautiful soul that is looking back at you?  Giving yourself a chance to look into your own eyes with love, forgiveness and gratitude is an opportunity most of us don’t take.  We spend more time looking at other people than ourselves-at least I know I do!  Seeing yourself and others on the soul level can change the way we look at the world.  Don’t feel bad to say out loud whatever you are feeling.  If it’s hurtful, what is your reaction?  How does your face change?  When it’s positive how do you light up?  Expressing who you are and what your feelings are, out loud, can remind you-how would you speak to your best friend?  How would you feel if someone said negative hurtful things to them?  Now look at how you speak to yourself.  Be your own hero and let go of those fears and allow yourself compassion.